Love is in the Air!
When I was a single woman in my twenties a friend of mine and I would celebrate Valentines day together. We would get dressed up, go to a nice restaurant for dinner and treat ourselves to some chocolate.
We had fun talking about the romantic lives that we thought were in our future. I was sure I knew what a happy marriage would take. I was certain that I would be the best wife ever. Not long into being married did I realize that neither of these would turn out to be true.
My first Valentines day as a married woman, my husband brought home a small vase with a flower and a little pink bear. He was excited to give me something out of the genuineness of his heart. I on the other hand wasn't that impressed, and it showed.
My reaction was just as much of a disappointment to me as it was to him.
Fancy or expensive gifts are not my thing. Yet, without realizing it, I had been caught up with the idea that love had to be expressed in a big way on Valentines. To be honest, I don't even think I knew what I was supposed to be expecting.
If big romantic gestures are your thing and it works for your relationship that's fantastic, go with it! However, if it isn't the way you express or receive love don't try and squish yourself into that box. It is a small box.
Our perspectives and attitudes can be influenced from the world around us easier than we may like to think.
So what should our expectations be when it comes to love and romance?
Scripture has quite a lot to say about the subject and the English language does us a disservice at fully understanding the depth of meaning the word love can bring.
In the Greek language, love is expressed using the words Eros, Philos, Agape and Storge.
Agape is sacrificial love and is often used for Gods love.
Eros is passionate love, often between two lovers.
Phileo is friendship or affection.
Storge is affection, usually within family relationships.
Love is so much more than we realize and it is often used loosely. I mean, I love pizza and chocolate and I love God too! See what I mean?
This is why some people "fall out of love" and choose to go down the path of divorce.
I'm certain you are familiar with the famous words of Paul concerning this subject:
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
The love we are talking about here is soo much more than our love for our favourite food or movie.
The greatest expression of love we have received is the work that has been completed on the cross.
God is love and it is the deepest form of love we can experience.
Friendly love and family love are important. Passionate love should be cultivated in a marriage, but the God kind of love will overflow into every aspect of our lives. Gods love has the power to transform us and our relationships in a supernatural way.
Let today be a reminder to you what love is really all about. Love is sacrificial. Love is putting others above yourself.