3 Lessons Learned from my Obsession with Social Media

It all began at my mother in-law's 60th birthday party. I remember like it was yesterday. There was lots of food, laughter and just a general sense of warmth in the room. People from all over gathered to see her and rejoice over her long life.

The party was coming to an end when I began to reflect upon my own life. With a few weeks away from my 30th birthday, I decided that this was going to be the year I do something daring. 

Now, I've never been the type to follow trends. As a matter of fact, I've generally lead a life that opposes this same idea. I tend to like a particular style of clothing when it's going out of style. Not at the beginning, nor the middle. Nope, all of a sudden, I take an interest at the end when everyone else is moving onto the next best thing.

So it was not surprising that at 29 years old, I was deciding to join Facebook. Now, Facebook wasn't going out of style so-to-speak, but it had been around for at least a decade! Suddenly, at that moment, I had taken an interest. 

My philosophy had always been, I'm too busy for social media. I ain't got time for all that...Well, that day signing up for Facebook had been the daring thing I chose to do...

Fast forward several years later, here I was: a social media junkie! I think I probably have an account on every channel possible. To this day, I still wonder how on earth did this happen? When did I become THAT girl??

I wake up and I'm checking my Twitter account to see what's happened in the world overnight. During the day, I'm scrolling through Facebook and Instagram to post for the ministry, checking our stats and generally just to see what everyone else has been up to... It's so sad to say, but this was happening all. The. Time. 

Am I an addict? Ok, maybe a little...

There have been times when my husband has complained that I'm always looking at my phone; that it being in my hand with my eyes glued to it, was my constant stance. I try to explain that I'm not just on social media perusing, but I'm also blogging or generating content to blog on.

Listen, a girl's gotta hustle!

Or does she? And if so, should the hustle come between her and her husband? I mean, how many times are we going to argue over the same thing? 

It was the day He broke my Ipad that I knew something had to change. It wasn't just the fact that something was pulling my attention away from him; it was the fact that he felt as though he had to compete with my false need to constantly know what was going on in the cyber world. 

The very thing I dreaded, I was doing. The very person I was running away from, I became.
— Monique Chambers

3 Lessons Learned

1. I've learned to put boundaries in place: Don't let social media be the first thing you look at when you get up in the morning. Firstly, thank-God for another day. And thank Him for another day to fulfill the work He has called you to.

2. I've learned to say I am sorry: Every time I've slipped up and offended my partner, I've come to understand the need to immediately apologize. And I do.

3. I've learned to balance my priorities: Can what you're about to post wait? If so, let it. Organize your day in such a way that the bulk of your work is done outside of your family time. Personally, I get up super early or wait until hubby is away at work before I start all of my online stuff. I no longer want him to only see me in front of my computer or phone. 

It's the little lessons in life that keep us on track. Just because we've bumped our head a few times over, doesn't mean we're counted out! Are you kidding me? It just means there is a lesson to be learned so that our character becomes sharper. God used my little obsession to teach me about the importance of boundaries, the power of an apology and how to prioritize my days.

What little lesson are you learning in your everyday? 


To Maintain Balance, Speak God's Word Over Your Life:

"To every [thing there is] a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven... (Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8)"

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33-34)."

"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God (Romans 12:2)."

"A false balance [is] abomination to the LORD: but a just weight [is] his delight (Proverbs 11:1)."